Time incredibly flies so fast and I didn’t notice that it’s been seven years already since I resigned from my work. I can’t imagine that I will find joy in being a stay at home mom because I never planned to be a housewife.
When I resigned from my work and I need to fill up some forms, it took me a while to write HOUSEWIFE in my position. It is not that I’m ashamed of it but I’m not just used to it. But that was before because now, I don’t mind writing housewife and telling people that I’m a full time mom.
Since I’m not used of not having my own salary, I became a mompreneur, I sell organic products and preloved stuff in Multiply site then I stopped. I was a work-at-home mom for less than a year only because I felt guilty of not having enough time with my son. I spent most of my time in my laptop, trying to finish all my deadlines so I reminded myself the reason why I resigned from my work. Then I decided to focus on my son and be a full time mom.
For the last seven years, I always say I’m a housewife, stay at home mom or full time mom but I have no idea that some working moms were annoy reading and hearing “full time mom” because for them there is no “part time mom”. They are working moms but it doesn’t mean that they are no longer mother when they are in the office. If there is no such thing as full time wife or part time wife then there is no full time mom.
I got their point but have they also consider the feelings of stay at home moms whenever they hear “I’m a working mother”. Do you think that housewives are not working? Like Jane Sellman said “The phrase working mother is redundant”.
We may not be in the corporate world but it doesn’t mean that we are not working, We have a lot of work to do at home like cooking, cleaning, tutoring and many other tasks. Bottom line is all mothers are working.
Working moms, work at home moms and full time moms are all mothers. Let us not focus on the labels. If moms who are working in the corporate world want to be called working moms, so be it. If moms who are working at home and taking care of their children want to be called work at home moms or mompreneurs, so be it. If moms who chose to resign from their job and want to be housewives, full time moms, stay at home moms, domestic goddess, homemaker and whatever labels they wanted, so be it.
It is just labels. At the end of the day we know that all mothers have the same goal in life, we want to be the best mom that we are meant to be. We need to love, teach, discipline and guide our children in the right path. Let us be happy and respect mothers in their own chosen career whether working moms, work at home moms and full time moms.